Why didn’t my child tell me that this was happening?

The abusive adult will often convince the child that they won’t be believed or that they are somehow responsible for the abuse and will be punished for it. The child may care about or feel protective of the person who sexually abused them, for example it may be a parent or other close family, and will likely feel they’d be betraying this person by telling about the abuse. They may also be told that if they tell the non-abusing parent/carer it will ruin their life in some way, so children will often keep the secret so as to protect the non-abusive parent/carer.